Tuesday, July 14, 2009

"An Ugly Pair of Shoes"

"An Ugly Pair of Shoes"

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable Shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in the world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by
before they think of how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of the shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

Author Unknown


Sarah said...

Fiona, hope you don't mind but I 'borrowed' this from your page- I had the same reaction you did- HOW TRUE IS THIS?!!! xx

Fiona said...

Hi Sarah,

I don't mind at all. I found it on a memorial site. I got goose bumps reading it.

I spoke to a lady from church who's daughter was stillborn at 20 weeks gestation, and her daughter would be over 50 now. She told me that not a day goes by that she doesn't think about her daughter, so the loss will never leave us - just like the poem implies. She then had 4 sons after her daughter.

It's really amazing the absolutely heartbreaking stories I've heard of lost babies, and if I hadn't lost Bailey, I would never have known.


Sarah said...

oh I KNOW- I have been blown away by the number of blogs out there from parents that have lost children. I said that to Jase- I had no idea- I was horrified in hospital to realise the chaplain was so busy!
that is amazing about that lady from your church....far out- right now- I am just wishing the hurt all away- but I guess it changes over time hey? xx

Tiffany Mitchell said...

I wear those shoes too, they don't ache so constantly any more but you'll never have to walk in those shoes alone lovely. You have all of us walking beside you, in those same shoes, hand in hand.


Sarah said...

I'm so thankful to have your friendship Tiff- I'm sorry you too wear these shoes, but Praise God we can be here for each other better because of them :-) xx

Heather said...

This poem really hit ome with me, stopped by to say hope you don't mind, I posted it on my blog, and I see it's making it's way around! ;)